What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
Last Updated: 20.06.2025 00:33
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Have you ever accidentally found out that you were about to be fired?
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Off the top of my ancient head:
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Why don’t the little sugar breeches gun owners understand that life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows?
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
Why should you never do drugs? Will this story absolutely shock you?
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.